THIS SITE IS CALLED RAPE JOKE.
(WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. Rape isn't funny. rape is serious. )
You don't say.
HOW TO TELL A RAPE JOKE.
Get raped. Get through the worst of it. And when you're ready, tell a joke about it. That's what we did.
When a non-rape-survivor tells a joke about a rape they usually assume the victim and the perpetrator are not in the room. Rape happens elsewhere! To people you've never met! Therefore RAPE = HILARIOUS. We suggest a new kind of hilarity. We want survivors to tell us about their experiences of survival and recovery. The bad, the ugly and the totally fucking funny.
In most public conversations RAPE = SHAME. That shame is usually heaped on the back of the survivor as the cost for being willing to tell their story in public. We here at RAPE JOKE think that's really not fair or cool or civilized.
We don't live in a kumbyah peace-loving society where rape is a rare abomination that happens to unusually vulnerable people. We live in a violent society where rape is an everyday thing that can and does happen to anyone - in any circumstances at anytime.
We are here to liberate the conversation: to say that the conversation must be had, and victims need to be able to tell their stories without judgement and that I-have-a-stomach-ache-face y'all keep making.
WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU WANT FROM ME?
Assume that if you are in a room and there are people in it, that there is very possibly a sexual assault victim in there. WE ARE EVERYWHERE.
YOU NEVER KNOW
Don't assume that someone has not been a sexual assault victim based on their age, gender, ethnicity or social class. Assumptions make an ASS out of U and ME.
TRUST PART 1
DO assume that a person who is telling you they were raped is telling the truth. After all, telling someone you were raped is nearly guaranteed to be the only thing shittier than getting raped.
YOU'RE NOT A PROSECUTOR
STOP approaching each and every case of alleged rape as if you are a member of the criminal justice system whose job it is to suss out whether or not rape actually happened unless that is actually your job, and even if it is actually your job, don't do it off the clock.
TRUST PT. 2
Telling someone you were raped to get attention or privilege is like showing people a handful of your own poop in order to get to the front of the bathroom line; they might let you through, but not without a bad reaction. People who lie about being raped are statistically not the norm. STOP assuming the opposite.
SMELLS LIKE RAPE CULTURE
This whole thing of trying to find a reason the person who is telling you they were raped is lying or interpreting things incorrectly or being overdramatic is the definition of rape culture - it’s assuming that rape is rare and that for it to occur there must be an extenuating circumstance. As opposed to it being just a really super shitty Tuesday (or two years, or whatever) with a super shitty fallout. Don't be the fallout.
WHO WE ARE.
We are a bunch of rape survivors who have collectively lived through 3072 stomach ache faces, 103 crying/screaming reactions, 73 smug challenges to our experience and too many awkward silences to be a real number. We didn't want to be rape victims in the first place. A rape survival story is not an obscenity, a plea for attention or a symptom of mental instability.